New Year’s Eve 2019/20, before the Covid came, we spent together and we had lunch and a drink. We sat down together and we were together all day.
On New Year’s Eve Desmond and I waited for the old year to go out and to let the new one in. We got dressed up – he wore his suit and his bow tie and I dressed up in my nice clothes – a nice skirt and t-shirt. We watched singing, and when it came to nearly 12 o’clock midnight Desmond went and got the drinks. He had a beer and I had a Martini and then when it came to 12 o’clock at the end of 2019, the beginning of 2020 we wished one another happy new year.
I said to him, "I hope you are with me for a long time." I didn’t know that this would be our last New Year together – I had no idea. We watched the fireworks on the telly and then we listened to a bit more singing and then I went to bed and Des stayed up for a little while. I said "Good night" to Desmond and "See you when you come to bed".
When it came to New Year’s Day we wished one another "Happy New Year!" again and spent the day together. We made lunch, had drinks together, and watched TV. I said to him, "Desmond be good and let’s make it another year. Please be with me for a long time and I love you. That’s why I married you because I love you and I want you to stay with me for a very long time. "
I know he is always in my heart and on my mind and that he is always looking down at me and looking after me. I would like us to be together forever. Now Desmond has gone, I always think of the good memories and the good times we had together.
For other people, if you have lost your husband or your wife or your family member, always think of them, always put photos up on the wall like I have and always think of your loved one like I do. Always think of the good memories and the great times you had together. If you get sad always think that he will be with you in your heart and mind and that they are always looking down on you. If you get upset then always talk to your friends. Phone your friends, or always have someone to talk to. Even though it can be hard with this Covid pandemic you can use the phone. I know it was hard for me and I know it’s hard for you other people but just think of last year and think this year will be better for all of us.
My best wishes to you all and I hope you have a good year.
Dictated by Theresa